“I blame the parents,†people say, when a child grows up to be. . . well. . . a little odd. But I wonder how many here attribute their interest in male-controlled relationships to their parents. I have written about my grandparents' marriage, but my parents have a lot to answer for too. My parents have mellowed a lot now, but they used to be sticklers for formal English etiquette and good manners, and you have to read this story in the light of that fact to understand my astounded reaction. I remember a family party once in which there were so many people present that when my mother came into the room, there was no free chair for her.